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Building Community (Sermon September 7, 2014)

Matthew 18:15–20 (NRSV)

Reproving Another Who Sins

15 “If another member of the church sins against you, go and point out the fault when the two of you are alone. If the member listens to you, you have regained that one. 16 But if you are not listened to, take one or two others along with you, so that every word may be confirmed by the evidence of two or three witnesses. 17 If the member refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if the offender refuses to listen even to the church, let such a one be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. 18 Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. 19 Again, truly I tell you, if two of you agree on earth about anything you ask, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. 20 For where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them.”

 

All too often in our culture we are quick to jump to conclusions and slow to change our point of view. We are quick with a lawsuit when we feel wronged for the slightest offence, and when things do not go our way we rush back into the controversy until somehow we are appeased. My main job outside of the church is to keep the store I work out of the courtroom, because even the slightest injury can be blown out of proportion causing great loss of time and money. Why has our culture come to this? Because we no longer know how to live with one another.

This teaching of Jesus gets to the heart of interpersonal relationships. Most people hear these verses only during a time of controversy because we have often labeled this as being the doctrine of church discipline. But I want us to think about this for a moment at the time these words were spoken the church, as we know the church had yet to come into existence. Some would argue and say that when church is mentioned it means the synagogue but in this case church means the community.

I mention this because if we take this verse out of our traditional box we put it in and put it back into the context of the community it changes everything. When we leave it in the traditional box of how to treat people you have an argument with in the church, it becomes extremely difficult to actually use these guidelines to discipline anyone because we do not know how. But if we were to live these words out in our everyday life with the neighbor down the street, or the manager of the store these words become less of a guideline and become who we are.

Now more than any other time in our culture, we need to look at these words in the correct light. In a culture where there is a lawyer for every 265 people, looking for cases to litigate. Where a speedy trial can mean years instead of month due to the amount of cases in the court system. It is important that those that call themselves followers of Jesus do not get caught up in a worldly system that takes advantage of others. With that being said I am not speaking out against lawyers, they are professional people that provide a much needed service. What I am saying is that people are abusing the system.

But let us look deeper into this passage. The first thing I want us to look at is the word “you.” This passage is very much focused on the individual as an entity within the community. This is why this is not just church discipline but a teaching on how to live with others. How we live with others really falls into your own hands. “If another member of the church sins against you, go and point out the fault when the two of you are alone. If the member listens to you, you have regained that one.” Although the verse says member of the church, I want us to remember that the word used can also mean neighbor, countryman, fellow believer, or member of the community. So let us look at this as, “If someone in your neighborhood sins against you…” This now causes us to consider what does “sins against you,” mean?

The concept of sin is one that confuses many in our current age. Often we consider sin as a transgression against God, or a violation of the laws of God. This is one way of looking at it, but this is a very legalistic approach one that often discourages instead of encourages. Another way to look at sin is something that hinders relationships; relationships between humans and relationships between God and humanity. This view of sin is the view I would like us to use when looking at this passage, mainly because if we look at it strictly from a legalistic view the relational aspect of the passage can be missed.

So someone in the neighborhood has sinned or has done something to hinder our relationship with each other. They have offended you in some way. What do you do? Again it goes back to you, because how we relate to others is in our own hands. Someone has offended you, someone has done something that may cause harm to your relationship. It is much easier to look at this passage from an abstract church discipline point of view because it takes you out of the picture. But Jesus is very clear, you must do something.

If someone has offended you, if someone has done something to harm or hinder your relationship with them it is your responsibility to do something about it. If you do not do anything to correct the situation then you do not have any right to be offended. I say this because they very well may not realize that they have caused or potentially have caused harm. They could not know because they cannot know you unless you reveal yourself to them, they do know your sensitivities or your weaknesses unless you tell them. They cannot know that they have harmed you because they do not know you unless you have shared your life with them. These guidelines are there to encourage us to take the first steps.

Someone in the neighborhood, in the community has hindered or has potentially hindered your friendship with them. That is what this passage means. That someone through words or actions has offended or has potentially cause harm to you. And Jesus says that if this has happened you must go to them and share with them how that action or those words could hinder your relationship with them. This is not how we generally live in our culture today. But imagine if we actually lived like this? Imagine if we were to actually go to our neighbor and talk to them over coffee and let them who we are and find out who they are. Imagine if when something did happen we were able to just go to them and let them know what is bothering us. Imagine if we lived in a community that respect for others was important.

If we have not taken the time to build a relationship with someone how are they supposed to know that their actions are hindering our friendship? Let us be honest, if we have not taken the time to build a relationship with them we do not have a friendship. If there is not a friendship then how can we be offended? If we are not building friendships then what is left is selfishness demanding conformity with no regard for the humanity of others. This is what the world is all about, selfish desires being demanded from others.

I will share with you a few examples from my own life, because I have a gift of being offensive. When Kristy and I left the Meeting in Arkansas City and moved to Wichita we lived in an apartment complex. We were watching a movie in our apartment one evening and then went to bed, only to have a knock on the door by a police officer. The officer said that someone had called to report that we were playing loud music and wanted us to stop. By the time the officer came we were in bed, I answered the door in my pajamas. I bring this up because I had offended someone, I did not know that I had offended anyone, I was not in any violation of the rules of the complex so how was I to know that I would be offending anyone, but instead of our neighbors coming to us and asking us to turn down the volume they called the police. After that incident we did not feel welcome in our own home, after that incident we felt as if we could not enjoy our lives, and we moved the first opportunity we could. The person who called the police was focused on the legality instead of the relationship. They sought to force us to conform to their schedule instead of asking us to consider their needs. There was another time when after a conversation in the break room at work a coworker of mine came to me and discussed how the topic of conversation that day was offensive to them and they felt that maybe we should not have discussed it. Although I had to think more deeply about what might offend that individual when we discussed things in the break room the friendship remained because they took the time to speak. In the first example community was not built, instead it was broken apart, in the second example although I personally was rebuked for being offensive the community was strengthened. But in each case the relationship was held in the hands of the offended party.

Jesus urges us to go to them personally because when we speak to each other we are known to one another. That personal meeting is vital. In most cases if a neighbor knows that their actions are causing harm to those around them they will adjust their behavior. But what if that individual does not adjust their behavior? This is where other parties are initiated to enter into the conversation. Why is it important to wait to get others involved? In my first example the police were called to confront me, this action caused us to feel unwelcome in our own home. It cause me to look at things in that community differently, I began to consider my neighbors differently when I heard an argument coming through the vents I thought about calling the cops on them, when people were enjoying their weekend at the pool I wanted a strict enforcement of the rules after dark. I wanted to retaliate because someone thought ill of me and wanted to force me to turn down the volume, so I wanted everyone in that community to suffer. But I did not engage the community, I did not even want to be in that community. When we neglect the building of friendships our outlook becomes very negative. When we skip the personal confrontation and jump to bringing other into the conversation we risk tearing the community apart before it even begins to form. But if someone does not change behavior after we talk to them and others in the community are also offended then together we can approach the individual and maybe then things can change.

Jesus then says if they do not listen to the group then take it up with the church, or the assembly of the community, and if they still do not listen treat them as a gentile or a tax collector. Often this is where this passage gets confusing, because when used as church discipline they regard that as removal from the church, but if we look at this as community building then how would Jesus treat the Gentile or the tax collector? Those offensive people become the ones we direct our ministry toward. The one that is offensive becomes the one that we focus our love and service to. So they reject us, we will let them know that we do not reject them. So they disrespect us we will not let their disrespect cause us to disrespect them. Imagine again if we actually lived like this?

Instead of calling the police on the offensive person we invite them to dinner. Instead of complaining that they have wronged us and hold a grudge for the next few years we do the best we can to build a friendship with them. What would happen then?

What would happen in our community as a whole if every follower of Jesus would live this passage out in their lives daily? There was a time when this was how followers of Jesus lived. There was a time when, even though being a Christian could cost your life people would continue to approach their neighbors to offer them friendship. There was a time when the followers of Jesus would face a sentence to jail before they would stop attempting to build the community to honor Christ. There was a time…

But what has happened? What has happened to the followers of Jesus that we would turn from this lifestyle of building friendships with those outside the community and instead fight? What has happened to the followers of Jesus that we would call each other to war instead of calling an enemy into friendship? There was a time, and there is time. We live in a culture that this lifestyle that Jesus encourages us to live is so foreign that it would change people’s perspectives. We live in a world that is so prone to lawsuits that when someone does not make that demand, it makes an impression. There is time for us to begin building this community for Christ. But it all depends on you and what you do with the time God has given you.

Jesus concludes this lesson by saying some of the most powerful words we will ever hear. “Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.  Again, truly I tell you, if two of you agree on earth about anything you ask, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven.  For where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them.” You have the power to bind and loose, you have the power to release and damn, you have the power to bring the kingdom of heaven to earth or open the gates of hell. That is amazing power that God has given to us. It is ours because how we respond when people offend us opens or closes doors. Here is the most important thing, it is not the person that offends that is being bound or loosened, it is you. You have the power to open the gates of heaven or to seal the doors closed on yourself. You have the power to live in the kingdom, building community in your own neighborhood, or you have the power to participate in the perpetuation of the worldly system.

No matter what others in the community do you are only responsible for yourself. But how we as followers of Jesus respond to those in our community can encourage others to consider their own lives. There was a time when people lived like this, there is time to do it again.

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About jwquaker

I’m sure everyone wants to know who I am…well if you are viewing this page you do. I’m Jared Warner and I am a pastor or minister recorded in the Evangelical Friends Church Mid America Yearly Meeting. To give a short introduction to the EFC-MA, it is a group of evangelical minded Friends in the Missouri, Kansas, Oklahoma, Texas, and Colorado. We are also a part of the larger group called Evangelical Friends International, which as the name implies is an international group of Evangelical Friends. For many outside of the Friends or Quaker traditions you may ask what a recorded minister is: the short answer is that I have demistrated gifts of ministry that our Yearly Meeting has recorded in their minutes. To translate this into other terms I am an ordained pastor, but as Friends we believe that God ordaines and mankind can only record what God has already done. More about myself: I have a degree in crop science from Fort Hays State University, and a masters degree in Christian ministry from Friends University. Both of these universities are in Kansas. I lived most of my life in Kansas on a farm in the north central area, some may say the north west. I currently live and minister in the Kansas City, MO area and am a pastor in a programed Friends Meeting called Willow Creek Friends Church.

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